Is there something in your life slowing you down? Is there someone whose conversation fills your mind with dark thoughts? Is there an
addiction that trips you up? Is there a compulsion eating up your time and
energy? Who, or what, is sucking your mojo?
Nothing? Really? Be honest.
Try this exercise. Set aside ten minutes where you know you
won’t be interrupted. Lay flat on your back and take six deep breaths—releasing
each one slowly. For the six breaths, think about nothing but your breathing.
Then let your mind wander. For ten minutes you are absolutely free of your
frustrations.
Now, imagine your life without that frustration. Maybe your
frustration is so huge, so overwhelming, you think you can’t let it go. But you
can. And what if you did? Imagine your life without that devil on your back. Imagine
a day—from the moment you wake up in the morning until you go to bed—without that
frustration. What would your day look like? How different would it be? How
would it change you? Your behavior? Your happiness? Your thoughts?
Often the problem is not really a problem unless we make it
one. We assign the power. We allow another person to constantly hurt us. We pick
up the cookie, cigarette, bottle, or phone. “The fault is not in our stars, but
in ourselves,” William Shakespeare wrote. And that’s the worst sort of fault—the
one we can root out, but don’t. The fault that eats at our self-image and kills
all our hopes.
Another exercise: take any object, even one as small as an
iPod, and hold it in front of your eyes. It’s all you can see. But if you move
it away, you can see all sorts of things. Consider all those other things that
fill your life and be grateful for the good. If you can, shake off the bad. If
you can’t set it down and walk away from it, try moving it out of the forefront
of your thoughts and sight.
So much easier said than done. But is it really? Sometimes
we think it takes eons to change, but history tells us otherwise. The Apostle
Paul went from an antagonizer (I know that’s not a word, but I can’t think of a
better one) to a disciple in a few short days.
So, what can you shake off? What can you cut out of your
life? How can you restart?
What if you stopped obsessing about your weight? Can you
throw out your bathroom scale? Treat yourself to nourishing food? Take a walk
outside? Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are a beautiful child of
God?
Are there gossips or Negative-Nellys in your life? Can you
find someone else to chat with? Or when you are forced into their conversation,
can you steer it in a better direction? Maybe you have to say—“I’m feeling a
little down, can we talk about something happy?”
Is your car a clunker? Can you replace it with a bike?
If you need some money, is there something you can sell?
If you’re lonely and bored, is there someone you can serve?
Find one thing in your life that you can absolutely live
without and get rid of it. Set it down and walk away. When my friend’s husband
left, she took all of his things that he left behind to the beach and built a
bonfire. When the Anti-Lehi-Nephites resolved to be a peace-loving people they
buried their weapons. Is there something you can burn? Do you have weapons to
bury?
I do. I’m doing it today, because it’s hard to dance with the
devil on my back.
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